5 Love Languages of Happy Couples

Does love have a language? Are we able to develop skills that help us become better at loving or appreciating someone more? What if we knew how to not only understand the language of love but also become a skilled expert in it? How much better would our relationships be? How much deeper and more meaningful would love become? 

A few years ago, Dr Gary Chapman wrote the wildly popular and best selling book The 5 Love Languages. In this book, Dr Chapman suggests that each person has a specific way in which he or she gets his or her emotional needs met. Yes, it applies to both you and I and also to our partners. It seems, according to Dr Chapman, we all have a unique love language.

You see, most people have a primary and secondary love language (preference). Learning to speak their love language can shift how we can end up relating to each other.

We often mistakenly believe that our partner or spouse speaks the same language we do and we try to meet his or her needs using our language.

This can often result in frustration, disappointment and shall we say false expectations.

The other day, at Seema with Love at Westfield Chermside, Chris and I were having an interesting fun-filled conversation with a young couple. A gentleman said something which made me think.

It was a light, friendly chat as we wrapped up the dress and candles that he had just bought for his partner. Chris joked as he cheekily stirred the conversation by saying how as men, they always seemed to be in trouble with their spouses.

The gentleman at the counter laughed and then lovingly looked at his partner and said, "Well, if they lower their expectation, we might just be able to meet it."

We all laughed but what he said remained in my mind.

It really made me think. 

You see, at Seema with Love, we sell beautiful handmade soy candles (Chris and I make each one together). We have sold literally thousands of these handmade beauties to couples over the last few years. Sometimes they buy it together and at other times a partner comes in to buy it as a gift for the love of their life.

I wondered, "Are they expressing a love language when they give these?"

Could we help these couples experience a richer and more fulfilling relationship? 

So we came up with 5 ways you can apply this to your love life.

(You'll find them at the end of this article)

But first...

What are the 5 Love Languages?

1. Words of Affirmation

Our words have power. We can either use them to build or destroy someone. We can also carefully choose what we speak to express our love for someone. Verbal appreciation speaks powerfully to persons whose primary Love Language is “Words of Affirmation.”

Words of encouragement easily translate into love and support. 

Is your partner's love language this?  

We had this in mind when we initially created our beautiful product tags. You'll find at the back of every Seema with Love tag a "to" and "from" space. It's there so that you can write a personal handwritten message to someone when you are giving them a gift from us. 

2. Quality Time

Many partners/spouses feel most loved when they spend physical time together, doing activities that they love to do. Spending uninterrupted time together will bring a couple closer, and in the years to come, will fill up the emotional bank account.

If this is your partner's love language, how can you do this better? What can you organise to help you bond better?

3. Receiving Gifts

At Seema with Love, we make most of our products by hand. From gorgeous, luxury scented, Seema with Love soy candles to the Seema Body Collection of hand creams and body scrubs, we make them by hand and with love. Our dried native Australian Flower Arrangements are designed like art, to exude love and joy for the receiver.

Why?

Because some partners and spouses respond well to visual symbols of love. If you speak this love language, you are more likely to treasure any gift as an expression of love and devotion.

People who speak this love language often feel that a lack of gifts represents a lack of love from their partner/spouse. That's why gift-giving is such a personal and deeply satisfying experience for us all.

 4. Acts of Service

Sometimes simple chores around the house can be an undeniable expression of love. Even simple things like laundry and taking out the trash require some form of planning, time, effort, and energy. 

I know, I know. I hear you!

The men in our life do need some visual guidance to spot these chores (acts of love).

But, you'll be surprised how often both partners in a relationship will speak to the “Acts of Service Language.”

However, it is very important to understand what acts of service your partner or spouse most appreciates. Then roll up your sleeves and get to it.

5. Physical Touch

Many partners or spouses feel the most loved when they receive physical contact. For a partner or spouse who speaks this love language loudly, physical touch can make or break the relationship.

Learn your partner’s or spouse’s “dialect” by finding his or her favourite acts of touch, whether it is hugging, kissing, holding hands, or anything else special.

Then initiate it often.

You'll be surprised how close you can become.

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How To Apply This In Your Love Relationship

1. Read these together with your partner or spouse.
2. Make note of which language is your primary and secondary love language.
3. Make note of which language you believe to be your partner’s or spouse’s love languages.
4. Discuss your love languages. Discuss which language you believed to be your partner’s or spouse’s. Were you correct in your assumption?
5. Talk about specific ways that your partner or spouse can meet your needs using your love languages.

There you have it!

Here's to a happier and more fulfilling relationship with your loved one.

You are Loved!

XOX

Seema

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