5 Secret Habits of Happy Couples

Have you ever noticed, how sometimes two people are so in love that they just seem to click? We often say they are a match made in heaven.

They are not necessarily people from perfect families, that have had ideal childhoods. Their satisfaction with each other isn’t a result of incredible levels of compatibility between their characters. 

Even shared values, goals, and mission in life don’t ensure relationship success.

Did you know that the most happily married couples, or even people in a loving and successful relationship, aren’t born with a special ability to create harmonious relationships?

How do they develop such a strong relationship?

You see it’s not the big stuff that matters the most.

It’s more about the small, simple, day-to-day habits that make all the difference.

Every successful relationship or marriage has some things in common.

Here are 5 Habits That Can Help You Enjoy Relationship Success Like Never Before

1. Assume Your Partner Has The Right Intentions. 

I know it's a big ask sometimes.

This habit is about grace.

Did you know that the grace and forgiveness we expect to receive from others are often so much more than what we are willing to extend to someone else?

It's easy for us to hold back and believe the worst when things don't go our way.

We must believe that our partner always has our best interest at heart. 

This applies even to actions that cause emotional hurt, fear or worry. Such situations are precisely the ones that require much grace and a diligent application of this habit.

Look, I'll be honest with you.

We all get hurt in relationships.

But it's all part of this wonderful journey of being in love.

Even the happiest couples go through moments of anger, insecurity, misunderstanding, and more. And no matter how much we desire not to, we will too.

We can’t avoid these moments, but we do have the power to handle them in a better way.

If you believe the best of your spouse or partner's intention towards you, this choice gives you the ability to overcome the initial pain coming from your partner’s hurtful words or actions.

Once the automatic "ouch" response gets out of the way and you don’t fall into a trap of taking things personally, you’ll see clearly that your partner loves you and cares about you. They probably didn’t know how hurtful their action would be.

Otherwise, they would not have done it.

2. Cultivate The Capacity to Give Compliments.

Giving genuine compliments to your partner or spouse, on a daily basis, creates more positivity in your interactions and amplifies your self-confidence and self-esteem.

Giving compliments is known to be good for the giver as much as it is for the receiver.

There is, indeed, no reason not to engage in this powerful habit of happiness.

3. Plan For and Prioritize Time Together.

Creating opportunities for couple time is essential for the development of harmonious relationships. A few hours of quality time together each week allow two people in a loving relationship to catch up, connect, share, and rejoice in their intimacy.

Ready for a date night?

Imagine the smooth and sweet aroma of a Seema with Love Candle carrying you to the place of your dreams. One that fills every room with a gorgeous scent that makes all your relationship stress melt away. Each candle is lovingly hand-poured and handmade by Chris and me.

We hear so many wonderful stories about our candles from our customers. We know they are special. If you haven't picked one up yet then head on over to www.seema.com.au  or visit us instore at Seema with Love, Level 2 at Westfield Chermside.

Here's the thing.

"The more quality time you invest in your relationship or your marriage, the more valuable and fulfilling it becomes".

Now, if you are struggling to find ideas for spending meaningful moments with your partner, try a few items from this list:

• Go on a date. Anything from a fancy dinner in a restaurant to a cozy home-cooked meal prepared together will do.
  
• See a movie or a comedy show. Anything that brings in entertainment, lightness, and laughter is welcome.
  
• Sign up to volunteer together. Choose a cause that you both care about.
  
• Exchange love letters. Use the magic of words to show appreciation and gratitude for your beloved.
  
• Engage in a team sport. Ensure that you’re on the same team. Sports like tennis or beach volleyball are ideal because they allow only 2 players per team.

4. Say Thank You.

Feeling respected, trusted, and appreciated is critical to any relationship.

Saying “thank you” is the simplest way of showing appreciation and can often be as effective as saying “I love you".

It doesn't mean you don't do the latter though!

We often have so many young men and husbands pop into our Seema with Love store at Westfield Chermside looking for a gift for their partners or wives.

Earlier today, I had a young husband come in looking for a candle and some dried native Australian flowers for his wife. He said he wanted to surprise her and knew this was his "wife's favourite store". What a sweet gesture and how thoughtful of him to remember his wife's favourite store.

 Of course, he left with some amazing gifts for his loved one.

I know we all can say thank you many different ways.

And yes you can say thank you without material things.

Yet, when you want to go above and beyond there are  Native Australian Dried flowers (they last for years) and or pick a beautiful designer dress (Hannah Shania has some beautiful ones in-store).

Of course, nothing beats a beautiful handmade hand-poured Seema with Love Luxury Candle.

5. Focus On Each Other’s Strengths.

Couples that have a greater capacity to appreciate and be attentive towards the strengths of their beloved have happier relationships and marriages.

When one partner decides to focus on the qualities and values of the other, not paying much attention to the weaknesses or drawbacks, this results in a higher sense of empowerment, well-being, and personal value of the other.

And together, you are stronger!

So there you go!

Happy couples didn’t necessarily start off as such.

They built their happiness through the consistent practice of supportive habits.

If you’re eager to strengthen your marriage or your relationship, start building these habits right away. 

Before you know it, you will be on your way to a more blessed and fruitful relationship with your loved one.

Love always deserves another chance.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."1 CORINTHIANS 13:4-5

YOU ARE LOVED!

XOX

Seema